Tuesday, June 10, 2008

June 10

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

As we begin to look more positively at where we are, we will discover that all of our painful moments, if faced, lead us to learn more about ourselves. Everything we experience has it's value. How much do we learn when things are going well? Don't we just coast along? Often pain pushes us to risk or to challenge the things in ourselves which we need and want to change. As we become more in touch with our needs, our values, and our goals, we are pushed to a new adventure.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

Remind me that pain is an opportunity for growth.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

Our pain, if faced, helps us to find balance in our lives - the balance of self, others, and purpose.

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Monday, June 09, 2008

June 9

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

Without the pain which comes to warn us of a physical ailment, we could die very quickly. If we refuse to recognize the warning signs of emotional pain, we may not necessarily die, but we will be less alive to abundant living. Each time I am willing to risk sharing my pain, I gain support and acceptance. This support and acceptance makes it easier to risk again. This risking brings me the gift of healing and wholeness.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

When I am in pain, may I develop the ability to see ahead to a fuller life.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

Pain tells me something needs to be changed.

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Saturday, May 24, 2008

May 24

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

Remembering the ruts and holes I used to dig myself into, I have finally realized that many of my depressions are caused by my character defect of procrastination. I wait until the last moment to do all the things I have been planning to do for several months. When everything falls due at the same time, it is not possible to accomplish all the goals, and then I lay a guilt trip to depression land. I am learning to keep my "job list" realistic and to do the best I can with it.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

Remind me that procrastination can lead me one rut closer to my deep hole of depression.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

I will do at least one thing from my "job list" today, whether big or small, and be grateful I could accomplish something; there were many days in the past when I could not.

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Friday, May 23, 2008

May 23

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

Comparing myself to others continues to be a well established habit which does not diminish easily. I repeatedly fall into comparing my inside to the outside of others. I see the self-assurance others exhibit as a sign of their independence, self-reliance and success, and as indication they have no problems; therefore, I am unlike them. My self-pity and low self-esteem grow to gigantic extremes. I become silent and withdrawn or sarcastic and verbally abusive. In fighting back, I hurt others because I hurt. I do not look further. If I did, I would discover they, too, have an equal amount of problems with which they must cope, but they choose not to let their problems overwhelm them.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

Please be with me and help me overcome my habit of comparing myself with others. Help me to see the good in myself, as well as in others.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

I am only hurting myself when I compare myself to others.

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Thursday, May 22, 2008

May 22

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

There are times when my anger is enjoyable and almost fun - particularly when I feel I have been treated unfairly. I relish feeling sorry for myself and love to go over and over in my mind the grievances done to me. I perform a play mentally and plan the bitter confrontation soon to come. I play both roles and write the script for the wrong doer and the wronged. I enjoy the taste of the words I'm going to use. I don't sleep well while I am rehearsing this mental play, and soon I am angry with myself and the whole world. That is when the fun stops. That is when the truth sets in. That is when I realize I am hurting only myself. The person I have lost sleep over has been sleeping soundly all the time. That is the time when I start praying for the person I am angry with.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

Help me to plan a mental script which uses the words, "I forgive you."

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

Anger is an emotion I cannot nurture; it costs me my serenity.

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Wednesday, May 21, 2008

May 21

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

How often have we expected 100 percent from a friend and felt disillusioned because that person could not meet our expectations? On the other hand, how many of us have a tendency to gravitate toward people who can only give 25 percent? We may be so used to receiving only crumbs in our relationships, we think that is all we deserve. Yet, as we grow, we discover we deserve to have people in our lives who can give us 90 percent - at least some of the time. In fact, to grow to our potential, we need a handful of friends who think we are terrific and wonderful - at least 75 percent of the time.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

Higher Power, guide me to relationships which will help me realize my potential.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

I will seek relationships which value me, relationships on an equal level. In turn, I will value my friends.

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Tuesday, May 20, 2008

May 20

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

The mind is so powerful in its ability to rationalize. It can make us believe the truth is a lie and what is false, reality. As we recognize how we so often delude ourselves with our thinking, we see how necessary it is to have friends with whom we are able to share anything. We have suffered enough from our self-defeating behavior. We do not deserve to keep hurting ourselves. Unless we wish to continue suffering, we will be open and honest with someone.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

May I not take action blindly. First I will share my plan with someone I trust.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

Openness and honesty are keys to acting responsibly.

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Monday, May 19, 2008

May 19

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

Until I began to accept my dependency, I was unable to become independent in a healthy manner. As I struggled with my dependency, I came to accept the support and care I needed. I have matured and gained great freedom. Today I can accept that I am both dependent and needy, as well as being independent. This is what makes me human.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

May I recognize my need for others, yet not expect others to take care of me.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

No one can do for me what I need to do for myself, but I need others to encourage me and support my efforts.

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Sunday, May 18, 2008

May 18

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

I am getting to be who I want to be. My own self was buried for so long I did not know who or what I was. The program has taught me honesty, which has enabled me to start knowing the real me. I no longer have the desperate need for approval from others. My own approval of me is more important. I am gaining a firm sense of self and a good feeling of confidence. I like the real me as I am. That does not mean I can't be better. It just means I can be satisfied with who I am right now, as long as I keep trying for improvement.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

Thank You, God, for helping me to learn that self satisfaction is not the same as false pride.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

Today I am terrific!

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Saturday, May 17, 2008

May 17

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

In the program I grow in awareness of my need for God and my need for people. I go to God for quiet times of prayer and meditation. This relationship with people draws me back again to God. Because I am a dependent person, finding a balance did not come overnight. But the balance of God and others in my life now brings me moments of comfort, peace, belonging, and security. I have found a place which feels like home.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

When I am uncertain about my direction, help me to reach out to You and then to others.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

I will reach out to God, and I will reach out to a friend.

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Friday, May 16, 2008

May 16

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

What does it really mean when I say in Step Six, "Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character"? It means I have to stop struggling, remembering I admitted my powerlessness in Step One, and put the responsibility for the removal of my character defects into the hands of God. Am I then supposed to just sit idly by, waiting, "twiddling my thumbs"? Certainly not. I have a responsibility, too. My part, however, is not to enter into the struggle again, but to become increasingly aware of the reality and presence of God in my life. To prepare myself for this, I have to spend some time each day alone with my Higher Power in quiet prayer and meditation. This daily discipline is my assignment.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

May Your presence in my life become ever more real to me, and may I open myself daily to Your guidance.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

The struggle is not mine; I put it in God's hands. My part is to draw nearer to God.

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Thursday, May 15, 2008

May 15

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

Sometimes people tend to try and control others for their own needs. Even though I fell into the receiving end of this most of my life, I now have a choice in the matter. I can refuse to be controlled by others, if I do what is right for me, without fear of repercussions or verbal abuse. I am stronger now, and my courage to speak up on matters of principle comes from my Higher Power. I will not turn down this gift of courage because of fear of what others might think, say, or do in retaliation.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

May I realize that what others do or say is not necessarily an honest judgment of me as a person. Even if they meant it as such, I need only answer to You.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

I do not have to let others control me. I have the Twelve Steps to use as my guide, not the judgments of others.

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Wednesday, May 14, 2008

May 14

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

I came to EA as a last resort and I wanted to get well yesterday. I did not want to admit powerlessness as I believed that other people were to blame for the mess I was in. If I could just get those other people to change I would be okay. The program taught me that I have not power or authority to control or change anyone but myself. That power derives from God, not from me. The first change was in my attitude. Step One meant that my powerlessness had to become an essential part of my thinking, feeling, and acting. I must stop trying to control the uncontrollable (other people) and start correcting what I have the right to change (my own attitudes and actions).

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

May I accept my own powerlessness and ask for and accept your power.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

I cannot change anyone or anything but myself, and then only with the help of God.

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Tuesday, May 13, 2008

May 13

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

In reflecting on my childhood, I see how fear affected me and helped form my decisions to be a "good" person, an approval seeker, and to put someone else in charge of my life - someone I saw as stronger than me. At first this was my parent: later it was my mate. Fear caused me to feel helpless, inadequate, and insecure. When I make someone else responsible for me, I have unrealistic expectations of those persons. They cannot possibly live up to them. I constantly set myself up for disappointment and hurt. I blame them when things go wrong. I may retaliate with anger or with emotional withdrawal. How much better for me to accept responsibility for my own happiness and to let go of expecting others to do for me what I need to do for myself.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

May I realize that my strength must come from a power greater than myself, not from other human beings.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

Faith lets us face our fears.

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Monday, May 12, 2008

May 12

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

The program teaches us that when we turn our will and our life over to a Higher Power, that Higher Power will guide our lives. But, I asked myself, how will I know what to do? What is my Higher Power's responsibility and what is mine? The insight came: turn it over. God will show me what to do and how to do it. In a meeting, during meditation, reading or in conversations, an answer or idea comes. Once God gives me direction, I need to take action.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

May I remember that when You guide my life it goes smoother than when I try to control it myself.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

God knows better than I do what is best for me.

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Sunday, May 11, 2008

May 11

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

One of my worst habits has been that of finding fault and criticizing others for what they do or do not do. I have learned that habits are changed by replacing the bad with the good. I know now that when I look for something to praise and appreciate in someone, I do not have the inclination to criticize. Finding fault is replaced with understanding, tolerance, love, and patience. Just as I know God made me and loves me as I am, I must remember God feels the same about the other person. There is alway something good in every one. I need to recognize the good.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

Remind me always to look for the spark of good in a person before I judge harshly.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

I hate to be criticized; so do others.

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Saturday, May 10, 2008

May 10

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

I often did things for others to make me feel good about myself, but the good feelings lasted only temporarily. What an exciting discovery to become aware my good feelings could never last from only "doing." Good feelings had to come to me from "being," as in being aware of what is really going on inside of me and accepting myself as I am, being responsible for myself, sharing my feelings with others and asking for what I need. Self-worth is actually a by-product of being honest. By following the guidance of my Higher Power, who often works through other people, I can take the risk of being myself and letting my actions be led.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

Thank You, God, for this new understanding. If I forget and try to go back to get my self-worth from only doing, I trust You will give me a nudge to let me know I am headed down the wrong path.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

Self-worth comes from being honest and responsible.

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Friday, May 09, 2008

May 9

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

Since being in the program, I have often heard about acceptance. In the past I have assumed acceptance meant resigning myself to the fact there were many things I could not change or control: situations, people, and often even myself. Lately the word acceptance has taken on a new meaning. I have come to understand that acceptance also means taking the gifts my Higher Power offers. These gifts - serenity, courage, wisdom, and love - are freely given. My Higher Power puts these gifts before me every minute of my life. I need only accept them. Sometimes I am blind to them or refuse to believe they are really mine. I see strings attached when, in reality, I am being offered the gift of freedom. However, the gifts never stop being offered, even when I reject them. No matter what I do or do not do, these gifts are never withdrawn. Acceptance means we can take these gifts which have always been, and will always be, meant for us.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

May I accept all the gifts You so freely offer.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

Acceptance is the gift of love I can give myself today and every day.

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Thursday, May 08, 2008

May 8

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

If I think I am perfect, then I cannot make mistakes. I either have to deny the mistakes I do make or blame them on someone else (difficult if the other person refuses to accept blame). Because I must do a thing perfectly or not at all, I am afraid to try something new. I might make mistakes while learning, or I might make a fool of myself. I cannot be human if I insist on being perfect. Only humans can have fun by allowing themselves to appear foolish while making mistakes and learning from them.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

May I remember the fun I missed trying to be perfect, and the energy I wasted holding back or trying too hard. May I not take myself so seriously.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

Only God is perfect. I am human; therefore, I will mistakes.

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Wednesday, May 07, 2008

May 7

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

This day will bring new challenges. I shall be faced with situations which I may label as positive or negative. Since being in the program, it is easier for me to handle the positive. In dealing with the negative, I need to act positively by reaching out to others through phone calls, meetings, and meditating. These are all things the program teaches me to do, and they work.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

When things puzzle me and do not render themselves to an easy solution, help me to turn them over to You for special handling.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

What my mind cannot fathom can always be delegated to my Higher Power for proper disposition.

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Tuesday, May 06, 2008

May 6

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

Once upon a time I thought I was a victim. People and circumstances had me caught, and I was angry that no one came to rescue me. I know now that a power greater than myself can set me free any moment, if I am willing. If I am willing, God is able. People who I thought hated me, gossiped about me, ignored me, or scorned me had a hook in me. I let them control my feelings. I was surprised to discover I could remove that hook by including them in my prayers.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

I pray for gentleness, generosity, and gratitude.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

I need never be a victim. God's power and my willingness make me a victor.

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Monday, May 05, 2008

May 5

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

Although it is scary to risk being open and vulnerable, the person who is able to do so in a relationship has much to gain. The person who remains closed may feel in control, but this is only an illusion and can block the love needed for a meaningful existence. Each time we risk being open and vulnerable we allow someone to truly know us. We open ourselves to the experience of feeling loved. We also learn about our capacity to love.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

May I risk being open and gladly accept the gift of love.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

To be known is to be loved.

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Sunday, May 04, 2008

May 4

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

Sometimes it is difficult to say thank you. When the good life of EA becomes a habit, we express gratitude for the big miracles; but what about the little day-to-day "gifts from above"? One way which has worked for me is to buy a box of inexpensive and decorative thank-you notes, or make my own. Then I give myself a time limit, two weeks or a month, to use up every note. This makes me even more aware of how God gives me gifts through other people because I am looking for them.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

I ask you Your strength, guidance, and care. I thank You for everything which has been given to me today.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

I will not be afraid to say thank you.

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Saturday, May 03, 2008

May 3

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

Some of the friends I have made in the program have become like members of a caring, nurturing family. When I can look across the room and see the sparkle in someone's eyes as they respond to me, I know without a doubt I am loved. The sense of belonging and being loved was something I always wanted desperately. I had felt like I was on the outside looking in. I was lonely even in a crowd. No longer do I have to feel alienation and loneliness, for I have come home. I have found a place where I can be me.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

Help me never to take for granted the wonderful and healing gift of friendship.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

If I am feeling lonely, I can reach out to a brother or sister in the fellowship.

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Friday, May 02, 2008

May 2

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

Spiritual awakenings are sometimes disguised as rude awakenings. Our expectations can become so overstated in our minds that we lose sight of the goal of our life - happiness. Receiving life as it comes is the wisdom of the Serenity Prayer. Unmet expectations often bring anger. If we find ourselves hurt repeal, it is time to look at our priorities and our expectations realistically. Then our rude awakening becomes a spiritual awakening.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

May I have the courage to look at my wants honestly and to change them if
necessary.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

I will be grateful for rude awakenings.

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Thursday, May 01, 2008

May 1

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

People need to be able to protect themselves without doing damage to others. I can learn to protect my sense of well-being without injuring someone else's. Whenever I have to say no, tell someone I do not like something they are doing, tell someone when I am hurting, and ask for, or allow, my own needs to be met, I need to do it without putting anyone else down. I need to deal with the issue, not the personality, and take responsibility for myself by not blaming others.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

Help me to know that if I am honest, I need not become defensive.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

To be assertive.

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Wednesday, April 30, 2008

April 30

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

"Turning it over" to my Higher Power is an exercise in accepting my limitations and a way of facing reality. I am saying, "This is too big for me; I am too weak, and it overwhelms me." I am letting go of a struggle which, in most cases, I could not hope to win. I am acknowledging there are some things too complicated, too difficult, and perhaps even too abstract for me to deal with at this moment. Maybe later, when I am able to break a big problem into little bits and pieces, I will once again take up the challenge. But not now. Not while it is bigger than I am.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

May I learn to live a manageable life by tackling manageable problems, and turning the rest over. May I comfortably accept my limitations.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

Today I will pick on problems my own size.

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Tuesday, April 29, 2008

April 29

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

My happiness does not depend on anyone but me. It is not given to me by others, nor can I earn it from others. Whether I am happy or not is the result of my own attitude toward myself and toward shared experiences. I place a terrific burden upon others if I make them responsible for my happiness. In expecting too much from others, I alienate them and become frustrated and angry with myself and them. This can give me the feeling of loneliness while in the midst of a crowd.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

Help me to search inward sufficiently so I can be my own best friend.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

My happiness comes from a positive appreciation of myself.

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Monday, April 28, 2008

April 28

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

I used to see God responding to me with a clenched fist. Of course this vision created fear and guilt and made me want to hide. Day by day my vision of my Higher Power has changed. The hand is no longer clenched, but open very wide. The arms are a place where I can retreat for comfort and security. God always guides my footsteps, and, in the painful times when I stumble and fall, God will carry me until I can walk again.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

Thank You, Creator, for the knowledge that You are with me, always guiding my path. When I am hurting, may I remember I can look to You for comfort.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

God did not change; only my vision of God changed.

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Sunday, April 27, 2008

April 27

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

If it seems that on page after page of this book you are told to let go and let God, it is because it is a lesson we all seem to need to learn over and over again. It sounds so simple. Why is it so hard to do, and why do we continually need to be reminded? We need to be responsible for our lives, to do all that we can to solve our problems and deal with challenging situations, but we must remember that the responsibility is not ours alone. We may not know what our needs are, but our Higher Power does. We may think there is no way a certain situation can be resolved, but there is One who does know how it can be resolved.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

May I remember that letting go does not mean I do not have to make any effort.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

Let God do the worrying.

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Saturday, April 26, 2008

April 26

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

In the aftermath of inventorying my specific defects of character, I found that underlying them all was a profound conviction that I am fundamentally defective in my very being. I am programmed with these false instructions: "You are not good enough! And it is your fault. And you are responsible for being better. But no matter what you do, you are weak and wrong, and you are condemned!" But in my Fifth Step my Higher Power gave me permission to accept myself for being me.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

May I understand that I am not guilty of being no better than I am.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

I am a part - not apart.

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Thursday, April 24, 2008

April 24

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

Today will be a great day. I believe it in my mind, my heart, and my bones. Only good things will happen to me and for me. It may rain, snow, or sleet, but so what? My inner sun will be shining. As I smile "good morning" at others, they will feel better and pass on the smile to someone else, thus creating a network of smiles. Though the circumstances of each individuals day may be different, there is one similarity for all of us. We have the choice to think positive thoughts. I choose today to believe that this day will be great. These thoughts are contagious and can work as rapidly as virus germs.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

Help me to be a carrier of positive attitudes. May I always realize that happiness spreads happiness.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

No antibiotic can "cure" positive or happy thoughts and actions.

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Tuesday, April 22, 2008

April 22

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

When tense and confused, I need to realize I cannot force-feed thoughts, positive or negative, to my hurting emotions. It only serves to cause more anxiety and depression. I must be accepting of my thoughts and feelings - be able to admit being unable to change them all at once or on my own. They may not make sense at the time and may contradict what I believe. I need to accept them with gentleness and compassion.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

Help me accept that I am hurting. Help me to be gentle with myself and to reach out.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

Part of growth is realizing that hurt people, hurt people. I will apply this to myself.

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Saturday, April 12, 2008

April 12

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

When I clean a drawer, I do not just rearrange the mess inside. I dump out the contents, throw away the things which are no longer usable, and keep only that which is valuable. I need to "dump" myself out to my Higher Power, throw away attitudes and behavior that have been hindering my relationships, and keep only those ideas which build and strengthen me.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

Grant me the courage to take an honest look at myself.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

I trust that my Higher Power will help me know what to throw and what to keep.

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Monday, March 31, 2008

March 31

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

Choices are not always easy. I do have a choice when a decision is called for. I may not recognize the choices and often say, "I had no choice but to .....," and so on. But the actual situation may have been that the alternative to what I chose was so undesirable, I did not give it any rank. For example, I am learning that I always have the choice of not choosing. In other words, I can ignore the situation. And I have realize that is making a choice. I recently heard the idea, "Not to choose is to choose." Hopefully the idea will help me to learn to evaluate all alternatives more thoroughly.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

Help me to be honest with myself and my situation. May I think about that the next time I feel short on choices.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

Choices are almost always available.

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Sunday, March 30, 2008

March 30

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

When I am troubled with my character defects of impatience or perfectionism, I can reflect on the slogan, "Easy does it." When I plant seeds in my garden, I do not go and dig them up every day to see how fast they are growing. Similarly, when I plant myself in an EA group, nourished by the experience, strength, and hope of my fellow members, I can allow myself the fullness of time for growth, expressed in small daily increments.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

May I not overreach myself but be content with my natural rate of growth.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

I am nurtured by the fertile garden (my group) and warmed by the sunlight of the spirit (my Higher Power). I will bloom in my own way, in my own time.

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Saturday, March 29, 2008

March 29

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

There have been a handful of very special people who have come into our life. These people have been instruments of a great deal of healing. For someone who had tried to be as self-sufficient as I had, accepting their help was tough. When I became aware that not to accept their care and support would be very self-defeating, it became easier to reach out. As I have been able to let go of pride and fear and reach out, I learned more and more about my own inner beauty.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

Nudge me, Higher Power, if I try to become self-sufficient once again. It is so lonely behind that wall.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

By letting love in, I have found myself and a caring Higher Power.

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Friday, March 28, 2008

March 28

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

Most of us long to be known and understood in depth; yet we resist this self-disclosure, for with it comes a fear of loss. We may fear: What if my loved one dies? Or walks away? How will I survive? The loss won't be so great and won't hurt so much if I don't care so much. Often we are unaware that after intimate moments we create distance by becoming bored, irritated, or angry because we don't want to lose the feeling of being in control of our lives. We can be assured our fear of intimacy is normal, yet hurtful if we allow it to control us.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

May I be reminded that unless I risk the loss, I will remain lonely and empty in the present moment.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

To let someone love me, I need to be vulnerable. To be vulnerable, I have to let go of control. I will resist closing up or running away.

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Thursday, March 27, 2008

March 27

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

A friend once put a tomato plant in a window box and placed it under plastic outside an open window during the fall. It continued to bear fruit well past the normal time, but the fruits became successively smaller. This is like us. We try to avoid our doormat times by continuing intense activity when we need quiet "nonproductive" time. Our efficiency slides. We become tired and tense. Basically we waste ourselves. Sometimes it is hard to say no. It is difficult to keep inner space high enough on our priority list.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

May I take time off as I need it, realizing this is essential to my ability to produce, and even cope.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

I need a quiet time of meditation.

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Wednesday, March 26, 2008

March 26

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

As I look back over my life, I realize there were many times when I "blew" it. I was trying too hard and never quite made it. I finally realized that by myself and my own power I could not accomplish what I needed to make me happy. Now I am learning to surrender to my Higher Power, recognizing my need for help, and a program, to really live a full life. I don't need to defend myself continuously because when I turn things over to my Higher Power, I am no longer responsible for the results, only for the efforts expended.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

May I be receptive to the good You have in store for me this day and every day.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

My control led to unhappiness, so for today I will give my Higher Power a chance.

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Tuesday, March 25, 2008

March 25

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

It is still too easy for me to get down. Not way down into deep depression, but down enough to make me work to get up. If I stay even a little bit down for long, I know how easy it is to slide further and further in that direction. It has been a long time since I have been really depressed, but because of the pain it caused me, the fear of depression is always there. When the down feeling hits, it is time to act "as if" and start thinking positive thoughts. I must concentrate on the good in my life and the good in me. I must turn off the "feel-sorry-for-yourself" ballads and tune in to humor, which helps my day become increasingly better.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

Let me always be aware of any downward trend in my thinking. Give me strength to turn my thoughts to the positive.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

Today is an up day.

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Monday, March 24, 2008

March 24

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

After working Steps One, Two and Three, it is tempting to sit back and say, "Okay, I'll let go; You take over." This does not work. It is like having a well and saying, "Why am I thirsty?" A well has clear, cool, refreshing water, but the water must be pumped or drawn out. We must use our faith to do what we know is right. We must seek counsel, meditate, and work on the steps. In any case, this program does not call for giving up; it calls for surrender. We are endowed with unique qualities which can be used to make our life and the lives of others better. Part of faith is seeking these qualities and using them when we find them. The love and acceptance of the program is the oil and fuel for the pump which will draw this faith and these qualities up into the light for us.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

I pray I may use my faith in order that I may grow.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

Faith is like a deep well - it has great potential but is worthless if not used.

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Sunday, March 23, 2008

March 23

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

Step Four suggests honesty with myself. Self-deception multiplies my problems and is an obstacle to the resolution of many of them. A searching and fearless inventory of my irrational behaviors and negative attitudes, like surgery for an inflamed appendix, is essential in my search for better emotional health. Self-justification may tempt me to explain away each fault as I uncover it. I may blame the shortcomings on others to excuse my own. On the other hand, lack of God-given humility may be clouding my appreciation and realization of my true value and worth. I have both weaknesses and strengths.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

Remind me that my strength grows day by day when I face myself as I am, and patiently correct whatever is keeping me from growing into the person I want to be.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

I will find serenity and stability only when I am honest with myself.

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Saturday, March 22, 2008

March 22

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

When I first started to work the Twelve Steps, I felt when I got to Step Twelve my life would be manageable and I would not be powerless. I did get to Step Twelve, and many parts of my life became manageable, but I am still as powerless as when I first started. My Higher Power is making today manageable, not my power. The word "manage" means to control, to take charge of, to succeed in accomplishing. Am I willing to admit I can't control, take charge of, or succeed in life by myself? To admit I am powerless over my emotions is one thing, but to admit I can't manage my own life sounds hopeless and helpless. But there is help and hope with a Higher Power as my manager.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

Help me to see what areas of my life I am still trying to manage and help me to turn them over to You.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

My Higher Power is a better manager than I am.

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Friday, March 21, 2008

March 21

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

A person who continues to run from pain ultimately finds he or she has to deal with some type of neurosis: depression, anxiety, or some other obsessive or compulsive behavior. Only when my pain became so great did I stop running. Then I had to deal with both the pain my neurosis created, plus the original pain I had run from in the first place. Once I learned I was creating more pain by running, I became more willing to face myself honestly on a daily basis. As I deal with my pain, I keep from developing another type of neurosis.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

If I begin to run, God, slow me, for I know You do not want me to hurt myself anymore.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

As I face my pain, I learn about myself, and my pain turns into a gain.

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Wednesday, March 19, 2008

March 19

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

As an adult, I am just beginning to appreciate the child in myself. The ability to be a child is the willingness to trust, to be vulnerable, to risk being laughed at or criticized. Although being vulnerable can be frightening, it is also freeing. In becoming childlike, we gain the ability to play and to respond to life with laughter and humor. Not always being concerned about what others are thinking of me is one of the greatest freedoms the program gives me.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

May I have a greater appreciation of the child inside of me, for I now know that is the part of me which is willing to trust. I need to trust if I wish to become open to myself and to life.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

I will continue to risk letting the child in me out.

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Tuesday, March 18, 2008

March 18

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

How we talk to ourselves creates how we ultimately feel. How often we tell ourselves that we are awful, something that happened is terrible, or we should be different or the circumstances should be different. Yet we are the way we are and life is the way it is. Acceptance of ourselves as we are and life as it is does not come easily. Again and again we struggle to be something we are not and to make things outside ourselves different from what they are. We use valuable energy and feel no better for the effort we invested.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

May I talk about myself and life in ways which are accepting. The gift I will receive is peace.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

I will be aware of how I talk to myself.

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Saturday, March 15, 2008

March 15

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

We struggled through many days, depending on things or people to make us happy. Yet nothing outside us could give us that feeling of security and happiness we sought. Finally, in desperation, we reached out, honestly. By being vulnerable, we began to gain what we had sought from the external. At first we were quite surprised to find we could create happiness and belonging by our own efforts. The more we risk being open, the more we are given.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

Because honesty brings me a sense of security, helps me to be willing to risk being vulnerable.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

Being vulnerable brings us much of what we need.

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Friday, March 14, 2008

March 14

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

When I concentrate too hard on what I want of life, I lose track of what God wants. But when I concentrate on living as I think God wants me to, listening to my heart and being ready to accept with good humor that which I cannot change, I almost always get from life something better than I could have asked for. I still have a tendency to say, "Please, God, let me have this or do that," but I almost always add, "if it is Your will." And I mean it!

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

Remind me, when I am demanding, that if I surrender I will get more than I asked for.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

I will try to get out of my own way and trust God to handle what I cannot.

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Friday, February 29, 2008

February 29

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

Today is a unique day; it only comes to me once every four years. It is, in a sense, an extra day - a special treat. What can I do to make this day really count? How shall I take advantage of these twenty-four hours? I can begin by making a commitment to be more accepting of others. I shall be more loving - of myself, as well as those around me. And I will take the time to enjoy my surroundings and the events which occur throughout this time. I will close this novel period of my life with gratitude to my Higher Power for one more wonderful day of living.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

Thank You for an extra special day.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

God gave me a perfect gift of twenty-four hours and asked for nothing in return.

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Thursday, February 21, 2008

February 21

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

Obstacles that are sent my way may not have a lesson in them which I can learn the same day. The patience I learn will help me to realize the master plan in my life very often includes lessons for tomorrow, not today. If something is missing in my life, my Higher Power is working for my good now, and the good that will come takes time, even years in some cases, for me to get ready for it.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

May I realize when a bad day has passed, things never look as black afterwards, especially if I deal with it by a healthy sharing with people I trust.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

"This too shall pass," means that things will get better or I will get better. It does not always mean the situation will change.

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Wednesday, February 20, 2008

February 20

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

How often have we been grateful for our fear, pain, or anger? Most of us would have to say rarely. Through the program we have come to realize these experiences are necessary to our growth and freedom, and we became more accepting of these moments. The more quickly we embrace our fear, pain, or anger, the less time we spend suffering. Our willingness to risk facing our feelings, as frightening as it often is, brings us the feelings of peace and belonging which we have been seeking for so long.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

Grant me the courage to face my pain and the insight to see the healing beyond.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

I will choose to embrace my pain. I will become me.

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Monday, February 11, 2008

February 11

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

One of the best persons to help you in times of trouble is someone who has had a similar problem. We say similar because no two problems are exactly alike. But somebody who has been down the path, around the track, and has actually survived to see the light at the end of the tunnel, can do wonders to lighten the load of the burden we are carrying. My words, my attitudes, my caring, and my sharing are all appreciated by someone. Sometimes they let me know I have helped them and sometimes they do not. The important thing is that we help each other.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

Open my eyes to see friends who can help me and friends I can help.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

A helping hand does not end at your wrist - It goes all the way to your heart.

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Sunday, February 10, 2008

February 10

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

When speaking with friends in the program, we must always remember to protect the information they share with us. By the same token, we need not hesitate to remind them of our need for privacy. It is so easy for us to speak of intimate details with EA friends that anyone can sometimes forget he or she is expected to remain silent. There are many advantages to having these free and easy conversations: we learn to be honest, we do not have to worry about ridicule or condemnation, and we have the opportunity to spot self-deception.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

Help me to be a trusted confident - one with whom others will want to share.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

It is better to be a receiver than a transmitter.

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Tuesday, February 05, 2008

February 5

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

I am full of contradictions. I am angry and I am loving. I am happy about somethings and I am often sad about the same things. I love and hate some people. I seek and fear success. This, to a logical person, is almost impossible to deal with. To ancient man it is confusing that there were seasons. Lightning was a mystery prior to Ben Franklin. Neither of these ideas baffles us today. I am now learning to accept the contradictions within me as things I just do not understand.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

Help me to realize that understanding comes with time.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

I will be shown.

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Monday, February 04, 2008

February 4

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

Many of us at one time or another have been perfectionists. This has led to excessive activity, oppression of others, or even to paralysis of action. The slogan, "Let go and let God," does not mean to quit. It means to leave the results to God. If we can do that and concern ourselves only with the effort, we will accomplish a great deal. At the same time, we can be happy since we will avoid anxiety.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

I pray I will only consider doing my best - that is perfect enough for me.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

Perfect is not necessarily best.

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Monday, December 31, 2007

December 31

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

"No matter what you do, I will still accept you," is a powerful message and a wonderful gift to hear from another. One might think this kind of acceptance would cause a person to act irresponsibly. Instead, this acceptance frees a person to experience what needs to be learned. Knowing someone is there who understands and cares ultimately helps one to become more honest and responsible.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

May I be reminded that being loved and valued, no matter what one does, is necessary for a person's maturing process.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

I will be accepting of those I love. I will benefit, too, for I will become more lovable.

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Sunday, December 30, 2007

December 30

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

Often we rebel against our pain. In our painful moments we may feel much alone, and it is true that to some degree we are. Yet, isn't it the pain which we have faced which has ultimately given us compassion for ourselves and then for others? Sometimes when we are open and share our pain, someone responds, "Thanks, you have really helped me." These moments create a deeper awareness of our value and the meaning to our pain.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

May I have the courage to be open to what my pain is trying to teach me.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

Pain faced brings freedom.

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Saturday, December 29, 2007

December 29

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

There are times in our life when we want to give up. Our pain seems to have no end. In a sense we are like the runner of a twenty-six mile marathon on the twenty-fourth mile. The runner may think it is impossible to finish the race, or maybe lose perspective. Yet, if there is a reflection on previous efforts, the decision will be made, no doubt, to continue the race or at least give it one last try. It does not matter how many people come in before or after, It matters only that there was no giving up. When the runner crosses the finish line, the pain turns quickly into jubilation.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

May I have the perseverance to continue my race.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

I will rejoice in my accomplishments. I will reward myself with something I enjoy, for I have done my best.

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Friday, December 28, 2007

December 28

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

To love someone is to give them something of ourselves. We risk being vulnerable; we want to share so much of ourselves. That person learns a great deal about how we feel and what we think. Our openness has given this person the power to hurt us. In sharing to this degree, we give up some of our personal power. Yet if we do not risk giving up some of our power, we will never experience what it feels like to be truly loved and cared about.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

May I be willing to take the risk to love and to be loved.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

I would rather feel someone's love than have only my power.

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Thursday, December 27, 2007

December 27

REFLECTION FOR TODAY

Many of us continue seeking relationships where we end up feeling rejected and abandoned. Yet we resist believing we could gravitate to relationships which could cause us once again to question our worth. It is a known fact, though, that we tend to repeat what we have experienced, whatever feels familiar. The familiar may be miserable, but secure; we know what to expect. As we look honestly at our past relationships, how many times have we unconsciously been drawn toward someone who has not been able to be there emotionally over the long haul?

MEDITATION FOR TODAY

May my new awareness, plus Your guidance, help me seek relationships where I feel valued instead of rejected.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

I deserve to be valued.

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