September 30

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Negative or unpleasant emotions are not a yardstick of reality, or of self-worth. Because I feel shame, for instance, does not mean I should be ashamed of myself. Because I feel panic does not necessarily mean there is something to be afraid of. Feelings may have no external or intellectual significance. Feelings are meant to be experienced and accepted, not analyzed. All I can conclude from feeling bad is that I am feeling bad. I realize that emotions are neither good nor bad, that feelings do not make me a good or bad person, that emotions and intellect are separate. Trying to "interpret" the intellectual meaning of my emotions is useless - like trying to spell words but using only numbers.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me to accept my feelings without judging them or myself.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
My best strategy in dealing with unpleasant emotions is simple acceptance.

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September 29

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Before joining the program, I often thought I would really be happy if a certain situation worked out to my advantage. I anticipated great benefits if my plans worked out. When I did not get what I wanted, I was full of self-pity, saying constantly, "If only...." When I got what I wanted, I often still felt disappointed when I realized my unrealistically high expectations would not be met. As I have grown in the program, I have learned to have more realistic expectations. Where I used to expect great benefits, I am now grateful for small improvements. Where I used to feel self-pity, I now feel more serenity in knowing my true happiness comes from being at peace with myself.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me to know more serenity by better maintaining a realistic perspective concerning the results of my efforts.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
It can be a long fall from high expectations.

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September 28

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
One of the many tools I have learned to use since coming to the Program is that of writing things down. I am always surprised at how much I write. If I am unable to sleep at night, I get up and write. It certainly is better than tossing and turning in bed. If something is bothering me during the day and I do not know what it is, I write and write some more. It is like my Higher Power is guiding my hand. I do not know what I am going to write until I see what I have written. It is amazing how many problems can be solved just by seeing them spelled out in black and white.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I always remember that writing things down helps me to see them more clearly.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
If I can see the problem, I can find a way to solve it.

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September 27

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
How often have we dwelt on feeling sad, lonely, inadequate, guilty, or shameful and wondered why we felt so miserable? Once we are able to look behind our feelings to our thinking, we quickly see the messages we had been sending to ourselves were the reason for feeling so miserable and unhappy. We can choose to stop talking to ourselves critically. Who we are and what we feel is okay. In fact, we need to be right where we are. We can only grow from that place. Accepting ourselves as we are will bring us to the next step of our journey.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me to recognize when I am "picking" on me.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I will choose to talk lovingly to myself in response to my feelings.

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September 26

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Learning to use the letters H - O - W has made me see things with a different perspective. Honesty, Open-Mindedness, and Willingness have helped change my life in so many unexpected ways. My days are almost always good. There are a few bad days yet, but most bad days are so much better than what I used to call my good days that the change is remarkable. It is a pleasure to start a new day because life is great. Certainly there are stresses, but I have learned HOW to cope.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Never let me forget how useful HOW is.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
How it used to be before HOW.

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September 25

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Electricity is a power greater than myself. Gravity is also a power greater than myself. I cannot control them; yet, knowing their laws, I can tap into them and put them to use for myself. From acceptance of these large, natural powers, I was able to grow into a concept of a spiritual power greater than myself. This power is the natural spiritual law. If I put my faith and trust into that power, I tap something strong and useful to my growth, both internally and externally.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I take time daily by prayer and meditation to tap into Your source of limitless wisdom and love.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I will let my Higher Power be my spiritual reservoir.

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September 24

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
In order to maintain this loving attitude which I have started to experience, I frequently have to give up some necessary characteristic of my self-will. Each time it is a different item: an attitude, an erroneous belief, and unrealistic goal, or another person's approval. Once I discover through one of the Twelve Steps what is hampering my progress, I ask God to remove that defect, just for today. Steps Four and Ten are most useful when I feel separate from God and do not realize why. Working Step Four releases me from all past wrongdoings, and Step Ten keeps present wrongdoings from piling up.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Let me not stray too far from You before I begin to work a step to help myself.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
To change the things I can.

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September 23

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
I am a guilt addict! The twelve-step program is helping me to recover from this addiction. Slowly my eyes are opening to the truth of my behavior and how it feeds this addiction. In the past I would overfill each day with "must do's" and "have to's" and "should do's," so that each evening I felt exhausted and guilty about what did not get done. Each morning began with leftover guilt feelings from the behavior of the day before. The future appeared as a repeat of the past: not enough time for the perfect performance of every duty and desire. By practicing the program I have become aware of my addiction and the harm it does me. This awareness is followed by acceptance, forgiveness, and then action.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me concentrate on Step Three today. This Step ever reminds me that Your will for me does not have a guilt "aftertaste."

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Felling guilty is an indulgence which always hurts me and destroys my enjoyment of the present day. I will choose to be free of it.

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September 22

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
This morning I see the sun is not shining. That can contribute to my being a crab today if I let it. By noon I realize that the reason the day is not being much fun is because I am teeing off on people and situations around me. To become aware of myself in that situation seems to require a jolt - someone coming back at me in such a way that tells me to shove off, to quit being a problem person. And even then I sometimes tell myself it is okay to be a crab. The difficult part is sorting out when I am the problem and when the other person is.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me not be a problem person. Help me to know when I need to stand firm for my position. I want to learn how to tell the difference.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
To at least make an attempt to sort things out, to tell the difference, then act on the decision.

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September 21

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
We may think we have many friends, but if we have two or three, we are richly blessed. A test of friendship could be if we were arrested for some terrible crime, would that person still be there to support us? How many of our friends would actually meet this criteria? If we have a friend who gives us this kind of acceptance, we would be wise to value that relationship. How accepting am I of my own human nature? Do I see that I am capable of doing anything anyone else might do? If I see that I can, I will be more capable of giving this kind of acceptance.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me to be the kind of friend I would like to have.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I will be conscious of my needs, as well as the needs of those I love, for unconditional acceptance.

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September 20

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Prospective changes in my life used to fill me with panic, especially major changes such as jobs, homes, or relationships. Major upheavals in one's life are never easy, but I have learned now to trust my Higher Power. I have learned to be more relaxed when anticipating changes. I no longer believe the worst scenario will be playing out in my life. There have been so many examples of good coming to me through changes which I dreaded. When we had to leave a beloved home, our whole lifestyle changed in a delightful manner. A job change I did not want turned into a fascinating challenge. I know many whose lives have changed incredibly for the better after an unwanted divorce. Change is growth if we accept it.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
I thank You for the good which will come with the changes in my life.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I only need to trust in my Higher Power and welcome change.

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September 19

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Short-term relief is all I get when I run away and hide from my problems. Whatever shield or defense mechanism I use to hide behind eventually becomes too burdensome. It becomes greater than the problem. When I turn from pain in a personal relationship, I may lose the chance to cultivate a deep and meaningful friendship. Working at friendship helps me weather the ups and downs of relationships. Running from a problem at work could take away an opportunity to find solutions to problems. Hiding in the back of the room at an EA meeting takes away my opportunity to share. Running from conflict does not produce a winner, just a loser - me.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me to find the strength to confront whatever I want to run away from.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
To run out is to hide out; to hide out is to lose out.

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September 18

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
In the past there were so many things I had to do, planned to do, or needed to do. When I thought of tackling any of these things, I ended up doing nothing but my usual reading, sleeping or daydreaming and then I had to think up excuses why nothing had been accomplished. I made fervent promises that tomorrow I would really get to it and get it all done. I knew full well the list was endless and that tomorrow would contain even more things to do, more than I could reasonably accomplish in one day. I am now trying to make a conscious effort to do at least one thing on this list which I do not want to do, and I have stopped making excuses.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I make the conscious effort to start my day with the God of my understanding, asking for strength and courage to take action.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I will make an effort to do at least one thing I really do not want to do.

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September 17

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Thinking back over some crises in my life, one common thread seems to run through them. I emerged a little bit stronger, a little bit wiser, and a little more appreciative of the ways and methods of my Higher Power. I now realize that each incident presented me with two different choices: negative -- I could crawl under a rock and curl up and die; positive -- I could accept it as an opporunity for change with a new attitude toward an old, familiar situation. What really impressed me was that the choice was mine. It was up to me to decide what direction I wanted to take and which attitude I wanted to adopt. If there was doubt in my mind, I turned it over to my Higher Power.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I continue to look at crises as an opportuntiy to grow.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
My choice will be positive.

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September 16

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
At times I need to feel appreciated. I need "strokes" which tell me I did a good job or I am a good person. These approvals do not always come when they are most needed. Those are the times when I must appreciate myself. It is hard for me to acknowledge my own worth. But how can anybody else appreciate me if I do not appreciate me? It is right for me to like myself. Not only is it right, it is absolutely necessary.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Dear God, help me to realize I am truly a special person -- not only to others, but to me.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I am better than okay.

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September 15

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
For years I ran from pain thinking denial would make it go away. But denying the pain only created more and more anguish and isolation. Hearing the phrase, "Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional," touched the core of my being. The reality is that as a human being I will experience pain. It is inevitable. Knowing I can alleviate needless suffering if I am willing to risk facing my pain creates a feeling of hope and security in me.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me to face my pain. Give me the courage to share my hurts with another, for it will rid me of my isolation.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Feeling pain is a sign that I am human, open to life, and growing.

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September 14

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Many people I meet in the course of my life will not like me. This fact does not have to affect my self-worth and dignity as a person. Some people will be unable to like me because of their own problems. I can have serenity knowing that God and I believe I am a worthwhile person. Since I know I am always loved by God, I do not need to be overly concerned with other people's perceptions of me. It would be nice if we all liked one another, but that is not the real world.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me to realize my self-worth and dignity as a person.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I do not need to be approved, liked, or loved by everyone.

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September 13

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
We learn in EA that we are powerless over our feelings. If we are feeling depressed or anxious, we cannot command ourselves to feel better. We have been given a set of steps for sane living. When following these instructions, we begin to feel better. We many not be able to control our feelings, but we do have the power to act. We can follow the program by working the steps. Sometimes we may be "doing good" but "feeling bad." We are doing what we think God would have us do and still feel depressed or anxious. Our experience in EA shows us that if we persevere, sooner or later our feelings catch up with our actions. Our step work pays off and we feel good again.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me remember that positive thoughts and actions can improve feelings.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Nothing changes unless something changes.

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September 12

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
In the process of learning and growing, I often find myself needing to deal with something I thought I had already eliminated. At these times I have rejected myself for being where I was. "I should not be here again," I thought. Slowly I am gaining the humility to understand that the program offers me greater and greater levels of healing. We only have to be willing to meet honestly the challenges which confront us in order for healing and growth to continue.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Thank You for the opportunity You give me to deal more deeply and to experience life in all its abundance.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I will continue healing and growing; I will become freer and freer.

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September 11

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Learning to love ourselves is possibly our greatest task. For most of us to really care for ourselves and to become vulnerable takes a very long time. We struggle so often with the knowledge of our inadequacies, fear, guilt and shame. We tell ourselves, "I will never be accepted if I tell her this...," "I will accept myself when ...." We cannot put off acceptance until we meet our criteria for ourselves. Likely, that time will never come. We need to accept ourselves, right now, with our weaknesses. Our weaknesses, when faced, will lead us to untapped strength. And we never will truly gain someone's acceptance unless we risk being vulnerable.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
With Your help, I will accept myself today, just as I am.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Acceptance and love go hand in hand. Because I am lovable, I can love someone and I can accept love.

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September 10

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Most of my life situations call for a response, one which is a choice between love and power. I can react either in a loving, compassionate manner, or I can choose to exercise my power by demanding, intimidating, manipulating, or attempting to influence in a way which is beneficial to me. Giving advice to others can be an attempt to control. Giving to others what I want them to have is not necessarily a loving act.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Loving well is a learned behavior which requires effort and time. Help me to be a good student.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Loving is a choice.

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September 9

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
When we begin to open ourselves to living, we generally feel a great deal of freedom. Yet we are also aware of our fear. Suddenly many choices lie before us. Of course, we do not want to make a mistake which may hurt us later. But we do not want to miss out any longer either. Like a new colt out in the pasture for the first time, we are apt to stumble and fall.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I be patient with myself when I make a mistake. Mistakes can be unexpected learning experiences.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
It does not matter how many times I stumble and fall; it matters only that I pick myself up, learn, and go forward.

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September 8

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
In trying to change into being the person I want to be, I ask myself what kind of people I most enjoy being with. I like to be around others who have a sense of humor, who can laugh at themselves and giggle at life's peculiarities. I enjoy those who are considerate of others' feelings, who are happy and comfortable to be with. I admire people who are positive in their thinking and who are even-tempered. I can become this kind of person by developing these qualities and characteristics. I must build on my assets, concentrating on the positive factors of my personality. I must ask my Higher Power for help to believe in me.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me to be the kind of person whose company I enjoy.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
The going is slow, but I have all my life to work on this growth.

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September 7

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Often I want to break away from all of my responsibilities. These are some of my choices: I can become hot with frustration and anger, attacking those I love, crushing them (and I will feel remorse): or I can sigh, rushing myself with the weight of inadequacy or resignation or the futility of it all (and I will waste time and feel guilty); or I can stop now, stand aside for a moment, and look and listen. I will see I am heaping abuse upon myself, inflicting it because, one again, I have not done enough. Or I will feel fear- fear that I might be like that person who is bugging me so much. So I must look at myself with kindness and tell myself to keep it simple. Then I can pick myself up and begin again taking another step, and even surer one, toward knowing who I am.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Oh, God, help me to know I have a choice.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I will go easier on myself and look at myself with kindness.

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September 6

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
So often I have read expressions in twelve-step literature like, "No one can hurt me unless I let them," or "When you resent someone you become their slave," or that "Anger is deadly for dependent people." When I heard those expressions, I interpreted them to mean that if I felt these feelings, I was not working my program. I used what I had heard to simply shut down my feelings. I have come to see that any feelings I bury will come out somewhere. If feelings do not come out straight, they end up doing me, and possibly others, more harm in the long run. Today I interpret those expressions to mean I do not want to "hang on" to the pain of those feelings, but I need to be honest with myself and another person if I want to go on functioning in a healthy way.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
I ask that You help me to face my feelings honestly and share them with another human being.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Avoiding feelings is not a sign of either wellness or of working the program.

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September 5

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
When I cry, I am expressing my anger, fear, grief, sadness, or even happiness. I am expressing parts of me which have been so long neglected. I am glad God gave me this ability to feel my feelings. Now I wonder why I was afraid to cry. I only wish that when I was younger I could have shed tears. Now I know it is good to cry and I feel relieved. It is okay to share these feelings too.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Thank You, God, for I can cry and I am grateful.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I can love the sadness as well as the joy.

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September 4

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Talking to my Higher Power can be like chatting with an old friend on a long distance call, only it doesn't cost any money. The results are the same: a warm feeling of having spoken to someone I love and who loves me. I feel wanted, appreciated and listened too. My ideas are not ridiculed, my feelings are not laughed at, and I feel cherished. I gain approval and respect, and I know once more I am okay and all is right with the world. Just afew minutes spent communicating with my Higher Power can fill my life with joy. Why do I wait so long to take advantage of this wonder waiting for me?

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Please dial my number when I wait too long to speak with You.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I don't get a wrong number when I call God.

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September 3

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
We often take on the problems of the world. We let our feelings of despair overpower us. Life provides many reasons for concern, fear, and depression. Do I want to give up and stay sick by allowing people and situations to instill me with fear, anger, defeat, and hopelessness? At times watching the news can affect me negatively. I do not have to give in to this. I can choose who and what I listen to. Above all, I can choose what I let affect me. I can choose my life-style. I can let go of the negative elements after deciding how I want to react to them.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me to remember I am often powerless over my circumstances - what I hear, what I am with, etc... Knowing this, with Your help, I can choose how much effect these things and people have on me.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
To "run with the winners" when possible. When not possible, "don't let the turkeys get me down."

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September 2

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Through recognizing and admitting my powerlessness, I am able to acknowledge this need, I am better able to seek and accept the help of a Higher Power. I do not like to see my own weaknesses. It makes me aware that I am not, nor will I ever be, in control of my own life. This is a scary thought, but at the same time, it is comforting. It takes away the responsibility of having all the answers. I do not have them, nor do I have to. I need to live one day at a time trusting my Higher Power for assistance.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I let go and let You.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Today I will find strength in my weakness.

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September 1

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
I grew up with the idea that God was sitting with a great ledger and a pen poised next to my name. Every time I made another mistake, a black mark appeared by my name because I had been so "bad." I realize now that in much of what I did I was using others' values as a criteria for what I should be. It is possible to see now that whatever I did that was "bad" was not unique. It had been done before. None of us are clever enough to come up with "something new." Have I stopped using the standards of the world to govern my behavior?

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
God, I know that You will do for me what I cannot do for myself. Help me remember You will accept me with all my imperfections.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
My imperfections are a sign of my humanness.

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