February 22

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Maybe my fear comes from thinking that someone is "out to get me" because of what they said or did. The only way I am going to calm that fear is by talking to the person and telling them how I feel. I have been amazed to find that usually the other person is surprised I interpreted the words or actions the way I did because that had not been what was meant. My fear was groundless, but I never would have known if I had not asked.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I remember that most of my fears come from my own negative thinking. I ask for the courage to seek clarification.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Ask.

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February 19

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
How painful it is at times to make choices. We want the best of both worlds. Yet most of the time this simply cannot be. We need to give up one thing to gain something else. As we seek guidance from our Higher Power and from our friends, we are helped to see the choice which will bring us our greatest good. The feeling of loss is also real and we need to acknowledge this pain. By facing our pain we are able to let go of the loss and go on once again.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I have the courage to get off the fence and make a choice.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
As I focus on the growth my loss created, the pain of the loss will dissipate.

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Febuary 18

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
As I attempt to live the twelve-step program, I find my focus redirected from the crippling effects of negative feelings and begin to see myself as part of a larger world. No longer must I exaggerate my self-importance or diminish my self-worth in my relationships with others. I am growing in my ability to recognize reality, and I am beginning to feel good about my part in the real world.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Remind me that my program offers me a blueprint for positive action.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Life can be a prison if I lock myself away from others and dwell on my own negativity.

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Febuary 17

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
We are not here to judge each other, but to accept each other. God is our only judge and so much kinder to us than we are to ourselves. Many times in the past we judged others. But were we equipped to make these judgments? Do we know what brought another to take a certain action? We judge others because we are so harsh with ourselves. The more we can accept our own failures and weaknesses, the more likely we will cease to judge others.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I realize that if I am judging another, it is only a sign of my own self-rejection.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
As I begin to talk kindly to myself, I will experience an inner peace and calmness. It will show in how I treat others.

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February 16

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
".... We aim for an atmosphere of love and acceptance." This helpful concept tells me how to behave toward the newcomer to my group who is almost certainly hurting and who may be behaving in a way I do not like. But isn't this concept important in my other relationships too? If I threaten to reject people in an attempt to get them to change their behavior, I am not loving, I am manipulating. Only by giving my love freely can I create the atmosphere in which I wish to live.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me to love others and to wish them their highest good, even when this conflicts with my own plans or wishes.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
The love I give without strings attached mysteriously returns to me.

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February 15

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
No matter what my problem is today, no matter my mood, and no matter the weather, I can find something to be happy about if I put my mind to it. I can search for and find something to be thankful for, if it is only that I got out of bed this morning. It is not God who need to be thanked, but I who need to be grateful. This gratitude fills my heart and gives me a new spirit. I give myself a fantastic reward - a thankful heart which fills a great need.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Fill me with a spirit of thankfulness.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Thank and be thankful.

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February 14

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Today is a special day celebrated by lovers in the United States. The heart is a symbol which has been seen in stores for weeks. Sweethearts send each other cards, flowers, candy. We call friends and relatives to say, "Hi, I am thinking of you." We care for each other to be nice to friends and strangers alike. In short, the day is dedicated to love. Why only one day of the year? I can strive for two days and then three and so on. In the past I was afraid to show love for fear of rejection. It is not as hard as it used to be. I have seen how necessary love is to me.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me to not be fearful of sharing my love and friendship all year long.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Lack of love will pain me much more than lots of love.

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February 13

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
When I came to the program, Step Three was confusing to me. Now I have learned that even though I may not totally understand God, or the meaning of God's will, I can still make a decision to surrender. I have already proved to myself that I alone cannot manage my life. What image I have of a Higher Power is not important. It is best that I just make a decision on whether I want God in my life or not. What have I got to lose?

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
If I cannot manage to say anything else, then just let me be able to say, "Help me."

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Stop analyzing - start accepting!

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February 12

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
What am I struggling with today? Do I still have some characteristics I wish to be rid of? I must be patient. God will give me all the strength I need to deal with my problems, one day at a time. The solutions may not come immediately. If I get too anxious and try to take back control, I will only meet with frustration and self-hate due to what I feel is my personal failure. One small step forward, firmly planted, will be better than making two giant strides, only to trip and fall backward three steps.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
I pray that You will show me which roads to go down first and that each step I take will be firmly planted with trust.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
If all else fails, try a little patience!

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February 9

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
I have some secret goals, some things I long to do, and yet fear often holds me back. It can be fear of failure or fear of success. I keep saying, "I can't," to myself. Saying or thinking "I can't" certainly limits me. That is the time to start saying, "I want to, and with my Higher Power's help, I can!" Nothing is impossible with the help of my Higher Power. I can get all the strength I need, all the ability I need, and all the confidence I need. I can be free, happy, healthy, loving, and successful. I can be all I was created to be.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Thanks for all the help You give to me when I ask and when I do not. Remind me never to take that help for granted.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I want to and I can!

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February 8

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
I am a "caretaker." I thought I knew what was best for everyone. They would be fine if they would only follow my advice. When they did not, I became frustrated and angry and felt rejected. The program teaches me that God is in charge, not me. I resent other people trying to control me; why shouldn't other people resent my trying to control them? I am not God. I am powerless to change anyone but myself. When I get too busy in other people's lives, it is because I am running away from myself.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I remember that if I quit running the world, control will revert to the Power who is, and should be, in control - You.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I am not in charge. God is.

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February 7

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Today I am happy. I am happy because I am me. I am happy because my life is filled with wonders: people, places, and things. I am happy because I know I have much to give and much to receive. Today is an extraordinary day. I am happy because wonderful things are going to happen to me today. I will have new, satisfying, productive ideas and I will have new, satisfying, productive ideas and experiences. I will meet loving people who will share themselves with me. Someone will give me a hug or a warm touch and a smile. There will be laughter, sunshine, and serenity - even if it rains.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
I give thanks for this day and bless every moment of it.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I am happy!

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February 6

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
I decide on a daily basis to surrender my will and my life (my thoughts and my actions) to God. This step is one of total surrender. I am saying, "My life is Yours, God. I am willing to do Your will for me." My job is to pay attention, for God does let me know what is wanted from me as I go through my day. Much of the time it is taking care of ordinary activities. I call it putting one foot in front of the other.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I have the willingness to surrender all aspects of my life to my loving Higher Power.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Surrender!

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February 3

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Intimacy is not referring only to sexual relationships. Intimacy is being very close to someone: someone we trust, someone with whom we can share our deepest thoughts and feelings. We all need an intimate relationship, even those who might vehemently express they do not. To have someone truly know us, and still accept us, gives us the human bonding we need to find our existence meaningful. We are loveable. We do count. We are worthwhile. Yet we will never come to this realization unless we leave the door to our heart open.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I have the humility to be myself and let someone close know something I have been hiding.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Each time we risk being vulnerable and are accepted, we feel love. We also discover a greater awareness of our value.

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February 2

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
In the northern part of the United States we honor a kind of silly tradition called Groundhog Day on this date. As the legend goes, this small animal comes out of hibernation to see if he can see his shadow. If the sun is shining, he runs back into his hole and that is supposed to mean six more weeks of winter, which no one wants. The groundhog reminds me of myself in my pre-program days - afraid of my own shadow. I was afraid of my past, my present, and my future. I believed the remainder of my life would be all winter. There was no love to warm me or any hope to kindle a spark of energy to set my inner furnace working. I have learned I have nothing to be afraid of because I have a Higher Power to turn to. My life has grown to include all four seasons: summer, fall, winter, and spring

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me realize the seasons come from my heart and mind.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Life is fuller with all four seasons.

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February 1

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
We are afraid of failure and also afraid of success. With success comes a responsibility to self and to others. We can best handle success by turning to our Higher Power with gratitude. We may also be afraid of falling on our faces again. What will people think? We may feel we need to live up to some image, but we do not. Even if we do stumble and fall, and ultimately we will, we will be given the strength to once again pick ourselves up. We will gain more humility, we will learn from our falling, and we will become stronger and more capable.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I realize You are with me to help me handle success, too.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
An attitude of gratitude will keep our success in perspective.

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January 31

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Self-acceptance is one of the important parts of the EA program for me. I am learning to love and accept myself through the Twelve Steps. I am learning I do not have to be perfect - only human. I have assets as well as defects, as everyone does. I am reminded of the story of the three-legged stool. One leg is our love and acceptance of ourselves. The second leg is God's love and acceptance. And the third leg is our love and acceptance of other people. What a wonderful life I have when I can experience all three of the "legs." I am learning about acceptance. When I feel God's love and acceptance, I am able to love and accept myself. What follows is a love and acceptance of others.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
God, help me to feel Your love and acceptance. May I be the kind of person You want me to be. May I learn what Your will is for me and accept it.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
My daily spiritual reading and interchange with others is important in helping me feel the presence of God.

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January 30

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
When I see greeting cards that say, "Happy birthday from your secret pal," or "Best wishes from your secret pal," I have to chuckle to myself. I have a secret pal - one who does not send cards on special occasions but one who makes every day special if I only remember to ask and to surrender my problems. My secret pal is my Higher Power, and everyone else can have the same friend I do. The key for me is to start each day by turning my life over and asking for serenity and acceptance for the day. If, in my haste to get along in the morning, I do not take the time for my surrender, it is not long before I realize the day is not going well. It is then time for action.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I not forget it is never too late in the day to turn my life over to You.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Greeting cards are always special, but successful days are my Secret Pal's specialty.

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January 29

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Sometimes I feel real joy, like today. It is sunny and very cold, the kind of day I enjoy very much, and I would much rather be outside in it instead of inside looking out my window. Somehow, the brightness of the day says to me that part of emotional healing lies in knowledge and awareness. If I am to solve the problems I have, I feel I can best do it in the bright light of accurate knowledge. Since I do want to solve my problems, awareness will help.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me to seek the bright light of awareness and the knowledge of what and where I am.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Only through self-acceptance can I bear to take a true look inside myself.

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January 28

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
It is possible to get rid of that "poor little ol' me" feeling if I make up my mind to do so. When that "feel-sorry-for-myself-for-no-reason" syndrome comes my way, I do have the ability to change my attitude. First I take a few moments to concentrate on what is bothering me. If I cannot come up with a legitimate reason for the "blues," it is time to take action. I tell myself I have ten minutes to really wallow in self-pity and set the clock to ring at that time. I play sad records and dwell on the injustices of life. When the alarm goes off, I ask my Higher Power for help to concentrate on positive thoughts which lead to my feeling better about myself. The key here is, I can change my moods with my Higher Power's help and some concentrated effort on my part.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Thank You for the ability to switch from negative to positive thinking.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I can mope when I want to, but only for ten minutes.

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January 27

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Sometimes I feel real joy, like today. It is sunny and very cold, the kind of day I enjoy very much, and I would rather be outside in it instead of inside looking out my window. Somehow, the brightness of the day say to me that part of the emotional healing lies in knowledge and awareness. If I am to solve the problems I have, I feel I can best do it in the bright light of accurate knowledge. Since I do want to solve my problems, awareness will help.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me to seek the bright light of awareness and the knowledge of what and where I am.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Only through self-acceptance can I bear to take a true look inside myself.

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January 26

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Too often we have been hesitant to express ourselves. Fearing rejection, our own or another's, we withdrew. The more we closed off, the more lonely and fearful we became. Before we were willing to risk sharing ourselves, many of us needed to hear over and over again that expressing our feelings is a sign of being healthy. When we are finally able to tell someone what we are feeling, we experience relief and often jubilation. Someone's acceptance gives us the courage to risk once again.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I be willing to risk sharing who I am with someone today.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Only through self-disclosure do we discover the beauty of self.

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January 25

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Before EA, I took on the responsibility of feeling loved ones' pain when they were hurting. For days I would obsessively try to think of the magic sentence or idea which would solve their problems immediately. Now I realize I do not have the power and knowledge, so I immediately turn another's tough situation over to God. My attitude now is: If God wants me to be helpful in a situation, it will flow naturally, with no obsessiveness or self-will on my part. Most times it is love and compassion which God wills me to give to the one in pain, not a direct solution to their problems.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Please help me to let go of any situation I have been tightly hanging on to.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Emotional releasing of a problem is the first step towards a situation in which I feel powerless.

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January 24

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Sex is a topic which is not often talked about with sincerity and honesty. Those of us who have come to EA often find as part of our recovery a need to deal with some unhealthy attitudes about sex. Many people's attitudes about sex seem to go from one extreme to the other - either it is dirty, or it is an obsession. Sharing our sexual struggles may lead to healthier outlooks.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
God, when I am unable to share with the group, may I have the courage to confide in a trustworthy member or a Fifth-Step person. That can be a beginning.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
As I continue to face myself, I continue to become more whole.

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January 23

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Today I will take care of myself. For me that was a totally new concept. I have discovered I am important enough that I do not have to please anybody but me. If I try to please everybody, there is no guarantee anybody will be pleased. If I please myself, at least one person will be happy.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I reflect on the value of the EA program which taught me my worth as a person. May I thank You daily for me.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I do not need to be a people-pleaser, but I shall try to remember it is a pleasure to be around people who are pleasant.

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January 22

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Storm clouds are often ominously black on the bottom. They suggest rain, lightning, thunder, and what is generally considered "bad" weather. They also suggest eventual rainbows, fresh air, and healthy crops. Our problems are much the same. They are ominous to face. But, if we can detach ourselves from them, they do not engender fear. Just as we can enjoy a thunderstorm by anticipating the peace and sense of well-being which is to follow, we can approach the problems we face with hope in our hearts. Sometimes we may need to take shelter during our storms. It makes no more sense to seek trouble than it does to go into a raging storm when it is not necessary.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Be my rain gear to get me through the storms I face.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
"This too shall pass," can be my weather report. I may not see the rainbow
until after the storm.

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January 21

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
I once overheard it said that the way you can tell a spiritual thing from something material is in sharing. When you share something materiel, the more you share it, the smaller portion each person gets. On the other hand, when you share something spiritual, its value is simply multiplied by the number of persons with whom you share. They may in turn share it, thus increasing it as thousandfold. The principles of this program are spiritual, and to persevere in "giving it away to keep it" sooner or later makes the promises come true of having a new and better way of life.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I focus on one of the steps today and share it with someone.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I can't give it if I don't have it.

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January 20

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
By being a kind, considerate and generous people-pleaser, I was looking for acceptance. I put the responsibility on the other person to make me feel good about myself, instead of on my own shoulders where it belonged. I am not saying I should never do anything for another, but I need to continually be aware of my motives. Does what I am doing violate my values? Do I have strings attached? Am I expecting something back? Am I doing it only because I want someone to like me?

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Let me be more aware of my motives for doing what I choose to do. I no longer want to lose myself for I am all I really have.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
If I continue to exist for others, I will not gain: instead, I will lose the most precious gift God has given me - myself.

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January 19

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
There are some days when I do not feel capable of meeting any challenges. There are some days when I do not feel confident and wish I had more abilities. Those are the days when I have to remind myself often that I can meet challenges and can accomplish whatever I have to do, that I do have the ability to make good decisions. I need to remind myself that my Higher Power and I are greater than any challenge. When we are working together, I am capable of using my God-given talents and abilities, and nothing can interfere with my success.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me to remember that You and I can handle anything.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
To begin each day with a positive attitude because I know I can rely on my
Partner.

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January 18

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
"My problem is not powerlessness, but too much power over my emotions," I said. Then I learned that controlled emotions control me. "Of all emotions, I relate to anger least, " I said. Then I learned that my large choices in life, no less than my idlest snap judgments of people, were ruled by unadmitted angers and fears. "How inappropriate theirs angers are," I said of my near ones. But my own poor strategies of living had gone to produce the emotional climate I complain against. I learned detachment and forgiveness.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May my love for others continue to grow as I learn to acknowledge my true feelings and to accept the consequences of my feelings in the real world.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I will listen to my feelings and direct them toward recovery.

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January 17

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Has my life become more manageable since I came into this program? Even if it has not, I have an ingredient which I did not have before: hope. Hope alone is something I never used to have. even though I am still powerless on my own, I have learned there is a power I can reach out to. If other people in the group have been able to find new life, then I can hope to find it too. I am now able to look forward to better things ahead.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I count every small victory as a big step in my life.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I have hope for today.

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January 16

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
God gives us the changing seasons to remind us that all of life will be filled with constant change. I will never be the same person that I was yesterday, and tomorrow I will change some more from what I am today. The snows of winter give way to flowers in the spring. So it will be with life. If I stay close to God, the drab winters of my life will eventually give way to beautiful flowers. Neither the flowers nor the trees fear the coming of winter. They follow the dictates of God and trust that their changes will evolve into new beauty and life.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
I pray that I may take lessons from nature and not worry about the wintry days, nor fear any changes in my life.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Spring always follows winter.

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January 15

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Step Twelve is a hard step for me to do deliberately. I think I do it best when I allow myself to be just myself. It is much easier for me now to share myself with others. I have to be able to Twelfth-Step myself before I can carry the message. By practicing the principles of the program in all my affairs, I become a living example of a better life. When I share my experiences, strengths, and hope with newcomers, I, in turn, give them hope. Hope gives us all a reason to live, and with that comes strength to go on.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I always be the best possible example to others. May my past experiences and future goals give them and me the willingness to work harder to achieve and maintain emotional health.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I cannot keep it unless I give it away.


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January 14

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
God has become a bigger and bigger part of my life - not because I am so devoted, but because I am seeing God in more and more places. I began by talking to and asking God questions, sort of getting acquainted. I don't need to worry about proper words and flowery phrases. This new friend of mine understands what I am saying and even what I am not saying. I believe God lovingly watches over me. I believe this Higher Power of mine is my friend, my partner, and my constant companion. These beliefs come to me because of working Step Eleven.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I keep seeking, as suggested in Step Eleven, to improve my conscious contact with You.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Not my will, but Thine.

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January 13

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
By now I can safely assume I am going to make mistakes as long as I live. They are a nuisance, but they have become an increasingly familiar nuisance. I think I would miss them now if they suddenly vanished. When I admit my mistakes, it is like welcoming my inlaws - they are a pain in the rear, but they are a part of me and I have learned to love them (a little). As Step Ten suggests, if I continue to take personal inventory, I can catch the mistakes almost as soon as I make them and then promptly admit them - to myself and others.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I remember to regularly work Step Ten to guard against old behavior patterns creeping into my life. Help me to take responsibility for my mistakes and to face the consequences which are the result.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
The biggest mistake I can make is to not search out my mistakes.


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January 12

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
I became more mannerly and stopped thinking it was all right to hurt people around me. It became easier to say things such as, "Excuse me. I didn't mean to bump into you." I became aware that there were others around me as sensitive as I was. As Step Nine suggest, I began to make direct amends to people I had harmed whenever it was possible. Fear and pride made it difficult at first, and I had to be willing to risk. It became easier as my apologies were accepted. Some people had died and others had moved away, so I asked God to help with those amends. Making amends releases guilt feelings.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
God, please grant me the courage, honesty, and good sense to enable me to sincerely and lovingly apologize, including to myself.


TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Everybody can be hurt, including me.

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January 11

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
I became aware that in my struggles I had elbowed a lot of people in the ribs. Many of them I had hammered in the heart as well. I realized that in order to live in peace with everyone, I had to make an honest and accurate list of all those I had harmed, as suggested in Step Eight. It was hard to face the fact that my behavior had affected so many others. It was easier when a friend suggested my own name be at the top of my list. As I gathered the names together, I asked God to help me become willing to make amends to all, including me.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May You continue to give me the honesty, courage, and humility necessary for me to take responsibility for my actions so I am always willing to make amends.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I cannot do good or bad to others without doing good or bad to myself.

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January 10

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
I began to exercise patience. I told myself, "My Higher Power is working on me as fast as possible." Telling God I was willing to wait made the waiting easier somehow. As Step Seven suggests, I asked for God's help through grace. When I asked for my short-coming to be removed, I found I was not giving anything up, but eliminating things which could again lead to my downfall. I was cleaning house and sending the unnecessary items to the dump - not just dusting them off and putting them back. I could not do this alone.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I take action, not just pray and wait, by using the EA tools which have so graciously been given to me.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I will clean my mental house from the inside out and ask God to be my "trashman."

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January 9

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
I came to believe that God has a sense of humor and did not hold my defects against me. We could both laugh at the fix I was in. Like a kitten tangled in yarn, if I stopped struggling, God would gradually get me untangled. I needed to stop struggling, which would become "entirely ready," as the Sixth Step suggests. Even as I prayed that all my defects of character be removed, I found myself thinking I was not yet able to be rid of certain ones. What would I do without this bad habit? How would I spend my time? That was the time to surrender - over and over.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
God, please help me to deal with the character defects which brought me to my bottom.
Remind me to continuously work the steps with enthusiastic effort, which is the way to become ready.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
God has the power to change my life.

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January 8

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Holding on to my secrets became intolerable; sharing them was unthinkable. I shared them anyway and survived. Without working suggested Step Five, I could not have survived. I would have "slipped" out of the program. I needed to get rid of all the awfulness of my past. The only way to release the sordidness, the shame, the dishonesties, and the guilt was to take a complete moral inventory of myself and to honestly admit it to God, to myself, and to another human being. I learned that burying or stuffing my attributes or failings will only do me harm. The human being I worked with was a Fifth-Step person.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
God, help me continue to be as honest and open with others as I was at my first Fifth Step.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
A Fifth Step once a year is like spring cleaning; everything gets shiny and bright.

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January 7

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
I knew my secrets were hurting me a lot. As I was being hurt, I was hurting others. I finally decided to call a secret a secret, and I itemized them as suggested in Step Four. I faced them with the one weapon that could get rid of them - honesty. Being honest with myself made it easier to be honest with others. Through looking at past mistakes, I found I could forgive myself for being human. Isn't that what I am supposed to be? While going through this self-inventory, I found I really had some strong points. This led to a new sense of confidence. Now when I take my inventory I know I have to have done at least one good thing today - even if it was only getting up on time. There were days in the past when I did not get up at all.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I continue to take moral inventories of myself, never holding anything back out of shame or pride. Help me to be willing to recognize my assets.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I need to accept that I have assets.

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January 6

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
I started giving God a chance to control the outcome of things as suggested in Step Three. I discovered when I did that, I was freer to do what had to be done. When I remember I cannot control the universe (not even my own little universe), I can relax and let my Higher Power take over the worries of my world. It is such marvelous freedom to not be in control. The energy I save when I turn my life over to God as I understand God can be spent enjoying all the good things: love, smiles, family, friends, hugs, or nature. I have to make that conscious decision of surrender every day of my life. What a relief!

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
I pray I continue to have the sense to turn my life and my will over to You each morning as I awaken.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Worry is worthless; surrender is serenity.

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January 5

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
When I lose my balance, I instinctively reach out for something to grab on to. I am learning to pay more attention to this basic instinct and have come to see myself as a life-long toddler losing my balance in many relationships. Step Two suggests there is a power I can reach out to - one who will help me maintain my balance. It is great to know I have support. I am no longer on my own, stumbling and falling. The belief in this power gives me the stability I need in my life.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
I am not afraid to stumble any more; Your support brings balance to my life.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Believing in a Higher Power makes my life sane.

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January 4

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
It was a relief to stop blaming myself for failing to do the impossible. It felt good to say, "I can't." Admitting I was powerless, as Step One suggests, released me from the painful chore of being responsible for the world and everyone in it. I do have a power, a Higher Power, who supports me as I make changes to better my life and become a better person, and who gives me directions for the way to remain powerless over things and other people.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me to realize Your will, for me and others, is wiser than mine.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

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January 3

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
No machine can last forever without periodic maintenance. Some of this can be done with the machine is in operating - oiling, tuning, cleaning. Other types of maintenance require "down time." In working the program, some steps are "operating" steps and some are more likely to be "down time" steps. Steps One through Three, Ten and Twelve are important in our operating maintenance. Steps Four through Nine may require down time. Step Eleven is a sort of bridge between and helps us know when down time is needed.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I keep on top of what is happening enough to know when I need down time. May I plan some down time in the near future to do some preventive maintenance work on my program.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I cannot afford not to take periodic down time.

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January 2

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
The Twelve Steps make up a whole. Each is good separately, but unless we apply all of them to our lives, we will regress. It is easy to enter the program, get excited, work only a few of the steps, and feel better for having done as much as we did. If we do not consciously make a choice to change our way of life permanently to include all of the steps, we may lose what we have gained. At the least, we will not continue to progress and will lose out on the serenity promised as a result of working the steps. It is very tempting to be satisfied with lowering the pain level to manageable proportions. If we do step there, the person we will hurt most is ourselves, although we may also hurt others. The difference between working the whole program and only part is the difference between serenity and existing.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May You always remind me that, "Just for today," I have a program.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
This program is not a menu from which to choose what I want, but a way of life. To get the full benefits, I must live it all.

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January 1

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
It is the first day of a new year. Another beginning of my new life. As I reflect upon last year, I can see many changes in me. It is not the big changes in me that are so interesting; it is the infinitesimal changes in me which count and will build the firm foundation for my future. Just as it takes many little bricks to build a firm foundation for a large building, so it is with my life. I will lay bricks one day at a time and continue to cement them with faith in my Higher Power. I shall enter into this new year in peace knowing I am never alone and am in partnership with the Master Builder.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
I trust You have a wonderful design for my life already drawn up.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
The construction of my life will go as planned, just so long as I am willing to be crew and do not play architect.

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December 16

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
The verb "resent" comes from the Latin, meaning "to feel again." When I resent someone, I recycle old anger, hurt, shame and humiliation. This is just like sticking a knife and twisting it. I toss and turn all night while the person I resent is home sleeping like a baby. The EA program shows me the way out of this futile and agonizing self-torture. Powerlessness was my dilemma; today I have the power, through God, to forgive those whom I have allowed to hurt me. I can release myself from these burning resentments.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I realize that the more I resent someone, the more I hurt myself.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
To pray for those I resent, even if it is hard to do at first.

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December 15

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Today I will accept my past. I will try to learn what I can from those experiences which cause me the most pain. I will be kind to myself, giving me credit for the things I have accomplished and not dwell on the things I have not done. With what I learn from my experiences and the will and strength of my Higher Power, I will try to make a better today and look forward to tomorrow.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me to accept and learn from my past so I can continue with me emotional and spiritual growth.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Painful experiences are not shameful, but rather a way I can better come to know myself.

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December 14

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Not only am I powerless over some of the things which make my life unmanageable, but also over some things which make it manageable. For example, I am unable to alter, even in the slightest, my self-worth. My value as a human being is determined and fixed by God who has made me a worthwhile person, and there is nothing I can do to change that. Nothing. However, my feelings about me and my worth do change from day to day, from moment to moment, because that is the way it is with feelings: they change. I am powerless over my emotions, including the emotions of self-esteem.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me to accept myself today as I am, even if my self-esteem is not as high as I would like it to be.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
My value comes from God, not from anything I do or fail to do.

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December 13

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
The Second Step tells us we came to believe a power greater than ourselves could return us to sanity. In order to return to a place, one must have already been there. In each of us there is a place, perhaps even beyond our earliest memories, where we knew the perfect harmony of mind, body and spirit. Each of us is wonderfully made, designed to experience a vast range of emotions. Like high and low notes on a piano, like light and dark colors in a rainbow, it is the infinite range of possible variations which makes them beautiful and ever new. So, too, we need to experience all our emotions - high and low, light and dark. We then need to seek out in ourselves the place of harmony for each of them in our own unique range of self-expression. In EA that range is constantly widening, enabling us to "hear more music" and "see more colors" in our lives.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I accept every emotion gratefully. May I acknowledge it, bless it, and allow You to help me interpret it.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I am wonderfully made! As Shakespeare marveled, "What a piece of work is Man!" (Woman, too!)

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December 12

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
The program is like a seed or young plant in the ground. If I am upset, I can't even think straight. It is important for me to quiet down, to be receptive to what is being said to me. First things first! To earth - pliable, open, willing, and honest. Later on I have to weed out attitudes which can choke out sanity like anxiety and temper. For many, the promise of sanity is snatched away from time almost immediately by personalities taking over before principles have even had a chance to grow. Am I allowing the roots of my program to go down deep? Am I "feeding" my program with the spiritual nourishment provided by the steps and program literature?

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me to absorb the sunshine of the fellowship.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I will relax and watch my seeds grow.

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December 11

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
If I am powerless, my only reasonable course is to live and let live. I must learn, with God's help, to live my own life more fully and to let other people live their own. If I spend my time and effort learning to manage my own life, I will not have any time or energy left over to manage anyone else's. My reward is a feeling of freedom as my burden is lightened when I let go of what does not belong to me. I need not worry - God will take care of others.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I remember that my progress comes from detaching from the idea that I alone can control other people or solve their problems.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Mind my own business.

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December 10

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
My tears have always been a source of shame. When I was growing up I was told they were a sign of weakness, self-pity, and foolishness. Consequently, I grew up fighting and repressing them. In the past several years I have slowly learned to accept them as an emotional release, and most importantly, as source of healing. When a grain of sand invades an oyster shell, it causes irritation. Immediately the oyster secretes a liquid much like a tear. This liquid hardens and forms a globe protecting the oyster
from pain. The tear or liquid is called a pearl. So my tears, too, are a beautiful and wonderful function of healing.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me remember my tears are an expression of my inner feelings and they are okay.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
My tears are pearls.

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December 9

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
So much of my grief is brought about by my own unrealistic expectations. Before the program, I did not have guidelines or a Higher Power to help me find balance between unrealistic and realistic expectations. High expectations of myself result in high expectations of others. When I fail to meet my own expectations, I feel I have failed. When others fail to measure up, I am angry or hurt. Low expectations of myself are just as damaging and are reflected in my expectations of others as well. Both myself and others are weakened if my expectations are too low.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me to see that a well-balanced outlook on what I expect of others and of myself will do much to eliminate my struggles with living comfortably and having meaningful, healthy relationships.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I will strive for realistic expectations.

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December 8

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
As we grow, we experience our worth and it feels terrific. We gain feelings of self-esteem and are grateful. Another period of growth comes along and we feel insecure and inadequate once again. We question and doubt if we have ever gained any self-worth. It is imperative to recognize that personal growth, even after many years of growing, always produces feelings of instability. This instability can even border for moments of despair. Our willingness to embrace the struggle and to learn what we need to about ourselves will eventually produce an even greater realization of our worth.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I be reminded that as I grow, self-worth will fluctuate and each new growth experience will grant me a deeper level of self-acceptance.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I look forward to my next growth experience with hope.

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December 7

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
If the weather is unpleasant, I will try not to let it ruin my day. When it is foggy and gloomy I will look for beauty in the difference of the scenery when objects are indistinct. When it is rainy or snowy, I will be glad I can stay inside or let it challenge me to dress appropriately and be comfortable in it. When the roads are bad, I will try to perfect my driving skills or see how I can plan less traveled routes.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I look for positive things in whatever weather there is, accepting what I cannot change.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Look for the good, even in the weather.

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December 6

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
My defects of character cannot be removed by my willpower. I have spent the better part of my life trying to combat these shortcomings. I have grown frustrated and anxious in the process. Step Seven says, "You have done your work in Steps Four and Five; now let go and let God. Just humbly ask for your shortcomings to be removed." As the steps suggest, relax. I can now start to live a less anxious life. I can also start being more spontaneous and put my worries and emotional problems into the hands of the Higher Power.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May the faith I have obtained in the first steps of the program stay with me and help me to now complete Steps Six and Seven.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Today I will relax my mind and body and truly accept that my Higher Power will remove my shortcomings at the right time.

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December 5

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
In working the Fourth Step, I found one emotion constantly appearing - fear. Fear denied me the chance of enjoying my present surroundings and relationships. Fear led me to believe that upsetting experiences from my past would recur, so I had to try and control the future. Fear limited my thoughts and actions like a chain attached to my body, dragging me down with its weight. Fear, in effect, stood boldly between me and my goal of serenity and peace of mind. I am learning to replace fear as the controlling force of my life with faith in a loving Higher Power.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I let go of behavior and habits which I have clung to in order to handle fearful situations.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Faith is action.

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December 4

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
It is so much easier for me to forgive others than it is for me to forgive myself. I may have done something I believe is wrong, or failed to do something which should have been done, an for some reason, feel I cannot be forgiven. I need to remember my Higher Power will always forgive me and will give me the help I need to find the words and means to make amends to those I might have hurt, including myself.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
If I am carrying thoughts and feelings of guilt and self-recrimination, remind me of Your forgiving love.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Not to be so hard on myself.

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December 3

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
My life is occupied often with too much thinking and not enough feeling. This condition of constant thinking leaves me physically tense at the end of the day. Usually this keeps me restless in my sleep at night. This physical discomfort alone should prod me into working the Fourth Step. Before I can free myself to feel, I must be willing to look at yesterday's hurts and guilt's and put them on paper today. The unfulfilled needs of my infancy and the repressed pains of my childhood will slowly drain from me as I put to work the slogan, "Know thyself - be honest."

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
I seek the courage necessary to work Step Four.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Sustained healing takes place only when I work the Steps.

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December 2

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
How many blessings can I find to be thankful for today? It is easy to say, "Thank You, God, " for the big things in my life such as the recovery of a loved one's health, a new car, a job promotion, or the winning of a contest. But how about gratitude for the mundane or insignificant things such as grass, getting home safely, being able to read the comics, or watch a favorite TV show? Certainly there are people in my life to be thankful for other than my spouse or significant other. How about the pleasant bus driver, a delightful co-worker, or the charming paper boy? There are things in my home to be thankful for-things which make my life easier and more pleasant. Air conditioners, dishwashers, and Scotch tape come to mind. Practicing gratitude throughout the day makes me aware of how blessed my life truly is.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me to remember to be grateful for all things large or small.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Do not take my blessings for granted.

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December 1

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
In the EA program we are learning to live one day at a time. This can be confusing. Newcomers often say, "What about making plans? There are certain things which must be planned ahead." Of course there are life events that require planning. We say, "Make plans, but don't plan the results. Don't decide the outcome ahead of time. Put into action whatever is necessary to move the plan along and leave the results to your Higher Power.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I become willing to be flexible and remember that You are in control of life now.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I can make plans without rigidly trying to control the results.

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November 30

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
The risk of caring is scary for each of us. It takes courage. We would like the love we feel for another to be reciprocated. When someone does not return our love, it can cause us to feel rejected. Rejection hurts. If we have felt cared about by someone over a period of time and that person withdraws, or worse yet, dies, we experience the deepest kind of hurt. This grief can make us want to close ourselves off from caring again. Yet if we refuse to continue being vulnerable, we will lose so much more. A part of us will die.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I understand that the only way I will continue to discover myself is by caring for another.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I will appreciate the value and care in my relationships today, for today is all we have anyway.

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November 29

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
When I am open to growth, I discover many things about myself. At times it may seem as if this knowledge comes from outside, but actually the knowledge has been within all along, waiting to be discovered. As growing persons, we are attracted to those things which help us go toward our greatest potential. As I have been willing to risk following the path which feels right, life holds challenges and adventures beyond my fondest dreams.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I have the courage to follow my dreams with action.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I will be open to discovering another part of my truth.

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November 28

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
How much time do we spend blaming others for the way we are? It may well be that our childhood experiences caused us a great deal of pain. But to continue blaming someone for the way we are only keeps us feeling miserable and hopeless today. This does not mean we should deny our hurt and anger. Neither should we blame ourselves. As we mature, we come to realize the people who hurt us were doing the best they knew with what they had been given. What can I do today that will bring me to a greater acceptance of myself?

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I remember I have the inner power given to me by You.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Hope lies in taking responsibility for self today.

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November 27

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
My life we so confused and in such turmoil I never lived in my twenty-four hours. I was worrying or feeling guilty about something from my past, so I never enjoyed life. I found I had a choice and changed my focus to today. My life is going on, and the experiences behind me are the basis for my life. I am learning to take the negativity from these experiences and letting the positive take over. I know I must practice the program one day at a time if I am ever going to get well. Even though I am sometimes confused, I can look forward to less turmoil each day.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Remind me that my past is something to learn from and not to dwell on.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Improving my life is my goal rather than living and reaching out to false dreams.

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October 28

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
We never fail until we quit trying. The battle is never over until we win or quit. Often we are tempted in times of distress to become discouraged and throw up our hands in defeat. Discouragement is actually a clue to make us pause and see what needs to be changed. It is time to pray for direction and then try and try again. Usually it is easier to quit, but how proud we are - and have a right to be - when we stick to it and win our personal "war."

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help us to keep on keeping on, even when the going is tough.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Never quit trying!

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October 27

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
I really feel great when someone lets me know they appreciate me. In thinking about that, I realized how often I feel appreciative of others and do not express that feeling in words. I seem to take it for granted they will know my feelings without hearing them. This applies to all the people I deal with: my spouse, my children, co-workers, and sales people, for example. From my own experiences I know that just to know one is appreciated can mean a great deal. On this day I will express my appreciation. I will let others know how much they mean to me and how I admire and am grateful for their efforts. I will be certain to include members of my family, who usually bear the brunt of my criticisms.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I remember that to someone who is feeling discouraged, appreciation can make the difference between giving up and holding on.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Appreciate - not denigrate!

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October 26

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
The more we are able to embrace our sorrow and learn from it, the more we will also be capable of experiencing greaty joy. Yet to embrace our sorrow takes a great deal of courage. So often we try to soften or resist our pain. In every painful situation there is a lesson to be learned. Our willingness to be open to this learning ultimately brings us to experience a greater joy than we had believed possible.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I hang on during my painful times, knowing my pain will eventually turn again into joy.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
The depth of my sorrow mirrors the peak of my joy.

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October 25

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Hate is a strong, controlling force if carried to the utmost degree. Oftentimes I will say I hate a person when in reality I only dislike what the person does. If I hate with a vengeance, the destructiveness of this emotion can invade every avenue of my daily life. The responses I give others become vindictive. The successes I win are most likely at the expense and mercy of others. The world in which I live becomes a disagreeable place rather than comforting. The spite I feel becomes my sole motive for living. My physical body become susceptible to pain and illnesses, which need not be. My obsession with hate hides my ability to see I am doing harm to myself.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me to recognize my own destructive behavior caused by the hatred felt toward another human being. Give me courage to differ with others without doing harm to them or to myself. Guide me to become a more forgiving and accepting person.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I choose to replace hatred with love and understanding.

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October 24

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Intimacy is being soft together. Many of you have observed the intimacy of a new relationship. It appeared exciting and wonderful. Yet this stage of the relationship ultimately passes. The conflict stage creeps in. Are we willing to deal with this stage, or do we run? Only after we face our conflict head-on can we come to experience the kind of intimacy and caring in a relationship which nurtures us and pushes us to become all we can be.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I have the courage to deal with conflict, realizing that dealing with it will raise my self-esteem.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
The more acceptance I have for myself, the more intimacy I will be capable of experiencing.

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October 23

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Too often I let external things distract me when someone is speaking at a meeting. Maybe dirty fingernails, a wrong color of lipstick, or length of hair or beard will affect my concentration. Maybe a person's poor grammar will have me making corrections in my mind instead of listening to the thoughts and feelings being expressed. Often when I really listen I really learn. I know my Higher Power works through people, and if I don't hear people, I won't hear God either. My progress in my recovery depends on learning from other people. I have no right to be critical or judgmental of others.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Open my mind to the shared suggestions of others. Remind me that externals are not important.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I am no better or worse than anyone else.

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October 22

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Given the same set of circumstances, we can do anything anyone else can do: steal, kill, write bad checks, or commit adultery. If we think we are above such behavior, we are naive. How readily can we accept that we are as capable of doing anything anyone else could do? For those of us who have been sheltered, it may take a bit longer to discover just how close we can come to any of these behaviors. We are fortunate, indeed, if we come to a point where we are forced to at least face one of these aspects of our personality. Once we see how capable we are of doing a particular thing we may not have believed possible, we gain a deeper acceptance of our own humanity. Our freedom increases. In turn, we accept others more easily.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I be open to the reality of my own humanness.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Accepting ourselves helps us accept others, too.

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October 21

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
It is not humanly possible to like every person with whom we come in contact. There will always be people who will say or do things with which we will disagree. It is probable that we affect others the same way. No one is exactly like anyone else. The differences make for variety in our life and should be as welcome as the different varieties of flowers in our gardens. All of us, regardless of our race, beliefs, color, or ethnic background, were created by a loving God. It is not necessary to like everyone - only to accept them.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Thank You for the differences in people, which truly spices up the adventure of living.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
We each take our own special road toward the same spiritual quest.

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October 20

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
The slogan, "Know thyself - be honest, " makes me aware of how often I ignore my feelings or try to rationalize them away. If I am to know myself, I must acknowledge my emotions just as they are. It may be I am letting a past experience creep in to distort my reaction to a situation. Or perhaps I am allowing old inferior feelings to cause me pain. I may be holding back feelings related directly to a present situation because it is easier (or so it seems) than having to confront, express, or risk rejection.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me to work at honestly knowing myself, day by day, minute by minute.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
The pain of facing my feelings is far less than the pain of suppressing them.

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October 19

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
My being a doormat came from a need in my emotional illness, a need for recognition and approval from others. In recovery, I began to recognize my own power to determine my self-worth. I no longer use what others will think of me as a guide for how I will act. I look within myself for my standards of behavior and seek the will of my Higher Power in all matters. I am beginning to take responsibility for my own life. Part of this responsibility is making my own choices and accepting the consequences.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Grant me the ability to look at my own power to affect other people.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
How much do I react to the power I perceive in other people?

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October 18

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Something to reach for, something to work toward, a reason to get out of bed in the morning, or a purpose for taking care of myself physically, mentally and emotionally - they all add up to goals. When I was in an emotional upheaval, goals were something which other people had - people with education, looks, money and talent. But certainly not me. I did not realize goals were personal guidelines which I could use to improve the quality of my life. Any part of my life that needs to be changed is an opportunity for goal-setting. Physically I could have a weight loss goal, a quit smoking goal, or a physical fitness goal. Mentally I could have a goal to change an attitude, a goal to broaden my interests and increase my knowledge, or a goal to read a good book every week. Emotionally my goal is for serenity, which can be gained by learning to "live and let live" and to roll with the punches.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me see a real need for change and to pick a goal and go for it.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
The only thing keeping me from my goal is me.

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October 17

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Resigning as "Master of the Universe" was a relief and a weight off my shoulders. The world can actually revolve without me. Now I can concentrate on the people around me. Instead of doing all the talking, I can do more listening. Instead of giving orders, I can ask for other people's opinions on how things should be done. Well, God, it is all Yours. Isn't that a simple way to handle a difficult problem? If I can't handle it, God can, if I just ask. A delicious sense of relief, a relaxing effect on the body, and a quietness of mind are just a few of the results which are mine from this simple turning it over.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Thank You, God, for always having Your shoulder ready for me to lean on.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
God will carry the load.

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October 16

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Because I was so impatient and critical of myself, gaining compassion was not an easy task. Now as I talk kindly to myself instead of critically, I gain more and more compassion for myself. When I am gentle with myself, I feel peace inside, even in the midst of turmoil. When I am gentle with myself, I become more gentle with others. It is this gentleness and caring, not impatience and criticism, which brings about continued growth and healing.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
When I resist being kind to myself, may I recall that compassion precedes growth.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I no longer need to hate me.

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October 15

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Someone said at a meeting that anger comes from other people not meeting my expectations. If that is true - and I see it is true for me - then I have two choices: I can either stay angry, or I can lower my expectations. If I choose to stay angry, the only person I hurt is myself. My blood pressure goes up, I get acid indigestion, headaches, and become depressed. Or I can choose to lower my expectations. That is another way of letting go of what I cannot control, of not playing God by thinking that my way is the only right way.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
I ask You to help me deal with my anger honestly.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Unrealistic expectations for myself or others creates anger.

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October 14

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
I would like to reflect a minute on the changing seasons. I live in a cold climate - cold in winter - and I have decided I want to stay, not retire to the Sunbelt. I certainly do not have anything against warm climates. What the winter does for me is to let things rest for a while including, perhaps, my spirit. I cannot possibly grow all the time. Perhaps if I stop and rest occasionally in the "winter" of my soul and be quiet - which is very hard for me to do - the growth will resume in the "spring" of my soul. And perhaps my growth will be greater and more assured.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Because it is difficult for me to rest, to slow down or to meditate, help me to allow myself the freedom to do so.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Progress is not always a high-speed freeway. I need to remember to pull in, shut off the motor, and rest my spirit.

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October 13

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
When I am feeling especially lonely, the pain inside makes me wonder why I have to go through this. The longer I am in the program and share my pain, the more I am aware that others hurt also. This common bond helps me to understand, care and grow. Pain is nature's way of telling me I have a need which has to be taken care of, whether it is physical or emotional. I need to take care of myself, and I can do it.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me to realize my pain is worthwhile, because it draws me closer to You and to others, and it gives me compassion.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Whenever I share my pain, someone comes into my life with a similar pain to remind me I am not alone.

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October 12

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
I am glad to realize that while I cannot will away negative feelings such as fear, anger, or despair, I need not be ruled by them. No matter how overpowering my emotions may be, I can focus on something which will feed my serenity. Although strong feelings may blind this fact, the world is full of goodness and beauty. As surely as I can be upset by another person, place or thing, I can find better experiences to enjoy.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I reflect on everything in my life which brings me happiness or serenity.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Why would I choose to respond to something negative when I can respond to something positive?

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October 11

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
My outside appearance is a good indication of how I feel inside. When my inside emotional stability is running amok, it is time to start getting the outside in order first. Are my clothes clean? Do they need repairs? Is my hair combed and washed, and does it need cutting or curling? How about a long, hot bath or shower? When was the last time I visited the dentist or had a good physical from my doctor? I need to make certain my emotional difficulties are not aggravated by a physical ailment such as allergies, blood sugar fluctuations, or chemical imbalances. Now that I am refreshed and looking good, I can call some friends for coffee or lunch or I can have people come over to my place for a visit. Doing these things can help to change my attitude.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
My body houses the soul You gave me. Help me to keep it in good working condition.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Taking care of myself means physically, mentally, and emotionally.

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October 10

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
I often ask my Higher Power to help me know what is best for me. And often I hear my Higher Power answer and know in my heart it is best, and yet I do nothing. Then I punish myself because I have asked and have received, yet have taken no action. In fact, the knowledge of what is best for me often causes me great anxiety, and my fear overwhelms what I know. I have been given knowledge but not asked for courage as well. Knowledge is a wonderful gift, but I accomplish little if I do not have the courage to act.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Higher Power, grant me courage as well as knowledge.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I need all my Higher Power's gifts.

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October 9

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Am I so important I am the only one who can do things for others? I used to believe the world was falling apart because I was becoming incapable of handling everything. My need to be needed was so strong I felt everything depended on me, and me alone. Ego, pride and self-will had me in their grip. I have come to realize that real help comes from allowing others to learn to do for themselves. I am now stepping back and letting others learn from their own mistakes, as we all have to do.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me to love, but not to take over.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I will allow others to do what they have to do.

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October 8

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
There are many important words involved in our program, but two of the most important are humility and responsibility. Much of my progress can be measured by these two words. They are extremely hard for me to accept and use. Humility bothers me because it goes against the grain of my false pride. Responsibility is tough because it is so much easier to let someone else take care of things. When I am responsible, I take care of my commitments and obligations. Most times that is hard work. When I accept and practice humility and responsibility, I grow rapidly.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
It is hard to be humble and responsible. Please ease my way.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Humility and responsibility equal maturity and manageability.

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October 7

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Being afraid of rejection, I did not trust sharing my honest feelings. Trusting seemed so scary; but once I understood the only way to let go of the fear of rejection was by my trusting, I became more willing to take the risk. As I took the risk to share and was accepted, my willingness to risk grew. The more I shared, the more acceptance I received, the more acceptance I received, the more trust I developed.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
At times, I feel so scared, God. Help me to risk sharing the parts of myself I want to run from the most.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Trust builds from the action of risking.

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October 6

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Pain had been the motivator for me to come into the program. After some time, the pain lessened in intensity and frequency. When I felt good and happy, I thought I did not need the program anymore. These thoughts scared me, so I began to create pain and misery for myself so I would be motivated to work the program. I became frightened of being happy and serene. I am learning that the desire to live a better life is a sufficient motivator. The pain which brought me here can be transformed into the gratitude which keeps me here.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I remember that as I grow in the program, my values and perspectives will change.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Flexibility in my thinking enables me to go with, rather than against, the changers God has in store for me.

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October 5

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
"Live and let Live," reminds me that my first responsibility is to myself. I must take care of myself the way my Higher Power wants me to . When I can accept myself, it becomes easier to accept others. When I allow myself to be myself, I am able to let others be themselves. This creates a lovely balance between others and me. When I take responsibility for myself, I lose my need to control others.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
You made me the way I am, and my job is to accept me and live with me to the best of my ability.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
If I focus on making this day as good as it can be for me, I will not have time to worry about others.

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October 4

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
Often I look back and say, "I knew better than to do that." I knew before I used the angry word, blamed, shouted, ran away, etc. that what I was doing was wrong. I did it anyway. Now with a daily program and a planned quiet time I can avoid many of these backward looks by realizing when the danger signs appear. I can choose at what time how to handle these situations. I can avoid hurting others through a daily Step Ten. I can rally acknowledge the feelings as mine and choose how to handle them during a quiet time.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Let me keep an eye out for danger signs and seek quiet when they arise.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Only in quiet can I hear my inner voice and make a choice.

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October 3

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
It is part of my emotional illness that I feel a vague but overwhelming sense of something wrong with me. If allowed to control me, this feeling leads to withdrawal, despondency, and a sense of powerlessness. The antidote is self-acceptance. This does not mean that I deny my shortcomings. In a searching and fearless inventory I honestly recognize my defects and my good points. If I set a goal of eliminating all my defects, I am doomed to failure. Only by accepting and using my positive qualities can I develop the strength to reduce the defects.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me to concentrate on my strengths.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
What I am is God's gift to me. What I make of myself is my gift to God.


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October 2

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
So many of my negative feelings stem from carrying feelings from the past into today, or from projecting what might go wrong into the future. I do this every time I expect difficulty, failure, or rejection. I am pulling out my past pain and wearing it all over again. I do it, too, when I start thinking during a moment of pleasure, "It won't work out like this again." When I remember to enjoy each moment for the sheer delight and goodness it offers, when I look upon negative experiences as lessons for improving my life, I am cutting my life into manageable proportions.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
With Your help, may I make the most of each moment.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I will live this day as fully as I can and, at the end of the day, I will let it go.

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October 1

REFLECTION FOR TODAY
I remember being so full of hate for someone that I ran movies in my head about committing violence against them. My hate produced envy, spite, and rage. Now I have learned through the Twelve Steps that I can and must forgive for my own mental health. And if I am unable to forgive, I can pray for my adversary. As long as I allow the hate to dominate my thoughts, that hate is running my life, and there is no opportunity for my Higher Power to enter.

MEDITATION FOR TODAY
May I remember today to pray for those who I find hard to love.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Today I will practice forgiveness.

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